Do’s and Don’t of Dating… From Movies
If you’ve seen the 40 Year Old Virgin, Juno, Wall-E, or any Hugh Grant movie then you know very well even movies doesn’t always show the dating scene coming out with a happy ending. Here’s a fun article over at College Crunch that lists the best Do’s and Dont’s of Dating from Movies. They can teach us a lot!
http://www.collegecrunch.org/feature/15-dating-dos-and-donts-from-movies/
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How to be Manlier than Approach Anxiety
Problem:
When most guys go out, they’ll approach like they buy milk. There’s no purpose, they’re just doing another task on a list of things they feel like they have to do. It’s better than sitting at home playing the new Modern Warfare game, as far as developing a social life, but it’s still not as effective, and initially attractive, as it could be. Also, when it’s just a task, you’re more likely to succumb to the effects of approach anxiety.
Solution:
When you go out, have a purpose. I don’t mean simply goals, like, “Go approach ten women,” I mean purpose. The difference is intent. If your goal is to approach ten women, and you do so with the same amount of purpose you go grocery shopping, then it’s all for naught. Approach like you’re a man, like you’re storming the beaches of Normandy, like you might die tomorrow, and if this is your final act, then by God, you’re going out with a bang! (So to speak, of course.)
This is you
When things matter, then they should be treated as such. Don’t go through life half-assing things that matter. Give them your full attention. Be present, feel the emotions welling up inside of you. Thoughts are okay, but should not be held on to like a safety blanket. They should be like butterflies, interesting, fleeting, allowed to drift away as quickly as they come.
Most people starting to learn seduction will attempt to stop approach anxiety, but that is counter-productive. Approach anxiety is a good indication of who you should approach. If a woman can create that nervousness in you, then she’s someone you’re attracted to. A man’s deepest purpose is generally found down the path that he fears to follow. Going and approaching despite the fear will allow you to feel your purpose. It is masculine to overcome fear. Bravery is not the absence of fear, but action despite fear. Women and fortune favor the brave.
If you “destroy” approach anxiety, using some psychological trick to remove approach anxiety, you’re removing the ability to be excellent. Women know that approaching a beautiful woman is difficult, and they know when the situation is especially difficult. Woman are very emotionally intuitive. A hard approach for you might be easy for someome else, but women can feel the emotional energy within you. When you approach, she can feel the emotions you overcame to approach. When you overcome obstacles, and approach no matter the circumstance and strong emotions, she’s going to feel far more initial attraction than some guy who felt no fear, and approached her when it was “easy.” Go for the 3-pointers, take the hard shots. That which seems difficult in seduction is usually the easy way.
This is not to say that one should waste time, or make things unnecessarily complicated. Quite the contrary, seduction can be simple. Simplicity is not always ease. Approaching a woman with simple honesty, “Hello, I saw you and I wanted to talk to you,” can feel far less easy than dropping the newest opinion opener. However, it is simple, because she knows your intent, and few men have the clarity of purpose to put it out in the open like that. She’ll feel it even more strongly if you said something like that after overcoming approach anxiety. It is a simple thing to do, but it is not always easy.
Action Steps:
Now, I implore you. Go out, find the women that take your breath away, that make you do a double-take. Find the ones who you make excuses not to approach. Make it your purpose, and approach those women with nothing but truth and simplicity: “Hello, I saw you, and I want to talk to you.”
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And here’s the other one:
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“Live as if your father was dead.” -David Deida
Growing up, we are told what to do. Go to school. Go to church. Clean the yard. Get a job. Learn to drive. Go to college. Find a wife. Have kids. Get old. Die.
What if that’s not the journey for you? It’s the outline to the story society tells us to live, but is it the story you need to live? Is it the story you want to live? It’s can be hard to shed the trappings of a “normal” life, and go blaze your own trail through life. I’ve been fortunate to have family and friends who support me through my non-traditional existence, but even with my blessings, there have still been times when I’ve had everyone telling me that I shouldn’t do something, and I had to walk my path very alone.
In the course of life, we are called as men to find our purpose, and fulfill it. This philosophical question, “What is the meaning of life?” constantly calling to us for an answer. Scale it down; make it more useful for us to ponder, “What is the meaning of my life?” What do you need to do before you die? What purpose do you serve? Some peoples’ purpose is just to be an example of what’s possible. Sometimes it is to make some lucky lady very happy, to have a few kids and the white picket fence. Perhaps it’s to be an artist, an entrepeneur, a civil rights activist, or even the president of the United States. Okay, probably not that last one…
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Scaling it down even further, what is your purpose in getting great with women? Do you want to be a playboy, surrounded by women, a bachelor for life? Do you seek to bed a bunch of women, so that when you find the One, your wild oats have been sown, and you can settle down happily? Experience has taught me that the traditional methods of dating are flawed, and while they may work for some, they fail for many. That said, society will scorn you if you follow a non-traditional path, and friends and family may even confront you. It is tough to blaze your own trail, and people may not understand your choices. It takes a lot of self-esteem and courage to go out and do what’s right for you, and let other peoples’ opinions be damned. Funny enough, chicks dig courage and self-esteem…
Going forward:
1) Figure out what is your end goal? It’s okay if this changes, happens to everyone. Just go for a general direction for now.
2) What milestones do you want to hit on your journey? What do you want to say you’ve done? This can be total ego, it’s your life, sometimes the cheap thrills are totally worth it.
3) Spend time figuring out the best way to go about reaching your overall goal, while hitting those milestones along the way.
If you need some ideas, feel free to comment below.
Cheers,
Justin
About the Author:
Justin C. has been a part of the seduction community for the last five years, and specializes in keeping the game, and learning it, fun. He is available for coaching through our weekend workshops and premiere Platinum Residential live-in program.
The Three Habits – Braeden
The Three Habits
The law of the harvest is to reap more than you sow. Sow an act, and you reap a habit; sow a habit, and you reap a character; sow a character, and you reap a destiny.
-Charles Read
On occasion, we get a student who just needs to overcome some random issue and all of a sudden girls love him. Far more often, becoming a man who enjoys an abundance of women in his life requires a more time consuming transformation. What makes some students capable of making that transformation while others fall from the path?
Habits.
So I’ve taken it to be my job not to get girls for students, but rather to help them incorporate the habits that will result in them getting girls for themselves. (I can’t get rid of that ring for you, but here’s a vial of nice glowing water, don’t lose it!) I’ve distilled these into three habits, which I will share with you now.
Keep in mind, these aren’t things that some students get results with, rather, almost everyone who has ever gone from being bad to great with women has had to master all three of these habits. Become the exception by learning the rules.
Habit One: Take Right Action
There comes a time in every man’s life when he is faced with the decision between what is easy and what is right.
-Lots of awesome people
(Be like Supes. Shown here terrifying a family by ramming their automobile into a rock.)
This is the most important thing… YOU WILL EVER READ. Take right action. Do what you know needs to be done. Nothing else matters if you don’t do this.
No matter what else you do, there are two kinds of people in this world: Those who take what they want out of life, and those who let life pass them by. What you feel is dictated by what you’ve been doing. Most people base their decisions about what they will do on how they feel at the time, creating self perpetuating feedback loops. Some people, the great minority, base the actions they take on what is most effective, and then derive feelings of happiness and fulfillment from doing what they know they should be doing, thus creating positive feedback loops irrespective of their circumstances.
By all means, be honorable, be compassionate, be righteous in thought and deed… but do what needs to be done to live the life you want, to meet the people you want in it, to have the adventures you want to have. From the standpoint of pickup, taking right action basically applies to shouldering social pressure and doing what needs to be done to bring you closer to being in bed with a girl you like.
Opening her: you miss all the shots you don’t take. I don’t care if you use the most complex indirect set merging stealth tactic or if you whistle and slap your ass.
Do SOMETHING.
If you can’t make yourself do something, give money to a friend or have them hit you if you don’t open. You don’t have to be disciplined enough to do something you can’t make yourself do. You only have to want it enough to gain leverage over your emotions by giving away something you HAVE to get back and putting yourself in a position where you have no choice.
After opening, you have to shoulder social pressure in order to progress the set. Making lame fluff talk till she wanders away bored is not taking right action. Move the set forward. Find out what she is passionate about, do something strange and fun, and talk about sex.
These are all things that feel weird, because you’ve been conditioned to say shit that causes girls to literally flee from boredom, because it’s safe and generic enough they can’t call you creepy.
And finally you have to take right action and shoulder the social pressure by closing. You’ve got to isolate, you’ve got to ask for info, you’ve got to go for the makeout, you’ve got to pull. You’ve got to be more than some guy, you’ve got to be her fantasy. What’s in a number? Girl’s don’t dream about an awesome guy getting their number! Girl’s dream of being swept off their feet.
Get a rolling start: use the Social Gearshift.
You’re probably not going to go from standing around like a fun barnacle to spewing forth incredible game. State needs momentum to build.
Think of it like a gearshift.
You start in neutral,
Go to first: walk around, make eye contact, smile, nod, say “hello.”
Go to second: give high fives, compliments, ask people about their day.
Go to third: say things that don’t require a response, but may garner one anyway. Short questions (are you an artist?), funny statements (I’ve got shoes just like that,) or offers to vibe (how you doing?) fall into this category.
Go to fourth: here’s where you begin to force interactions. “Pardon me, I hate to stop you but…” This gear is where you’re not just approaching, you’re opening. She’s going to talk to you here.
And fifth is just over the top, the stuff that comes out of your mouth when you’re in deep state and everything you do is awesome.
Work your way up, shift through the gears. Keep in mind that there won’t be enough hot girls to be able to address them alone. The other benefit of the social gearshift is that it conditions you to be a generally social person. Everyone you meet allows you to pump your state, and everytime you do it you get better at adding value to strangers lives.
Habit Two: Have Fun
Just play. Have fun. Enjoy the game.
-Michael Jordan
If you’re not having fun, she won’t be either. Remember that the stronger reality swallows the weaker reality. This isn’t cosmic ju-ju, this is supported by science. Whatever you feel, she feels, if you’re terrified, you will not be providing her with a pleasant experience.
Take right action comes first, because approaching may terrify you, but you have to do it anyway. It’ll get better. Figure out ways to have fun. It’s better to have fun and game in a sub-optimal fashion than to condition yourself to hate going out and practicing.
One of the things that will help is building social momentum and opening as soon as you arrive at the venue. The nights where I go out, walk in, and stand about tend to be much lamer than the nights where I talk to people on the street on the way to the venue, talk to people in line, and open the first set I see as I walk in. Those nights are MUCH more fun, rather than worrying about what I’m going to do and who I’m going to talk to, I’m just enjoying the company of all the people I encounter.
If you can’t figure out a way to have fun, pick your favorite ladies man, be it Bond or Indiana Jones or Batman or who…ever, and go out and literally do whatever you think he’d do in every situation. Make it a game.
In fact, if you’re not having fun, it’s time to play… The blow out game.
The blow out game is awesome because you can play it with friends or with strangers, and it’ll lead to either one of them worshiping you as a god.
It’s REALLY simple.
They pick a girl, they give you something to say to her, and you go up and say it.
There are two rules:
One: she needs to be reasonably attractive.
Two: whatever they give you to say can’t be boring, get you arrested, or hurt her feelings. (It can be shocking and offensive. Her slapping you is fine, her crying is NOT.)
Habit Three: Filter for the Positive
A pessimist sees the difficulty in every opportunity; an optimist sees the opportunity in every difficulty.
-Winston Churchill
The best students think about what they did RIGHT.
The best student are not realists, or pragmatists, or objective, or anything associated with being smart. They get good because they are HAPPY when the night is over and that makes them want to practice more. If I have one student who does ten sets and nine hate him and one is nice to him, and he’s stoked that a stranger treated him with kindness, and another student who gets nine numbers and one girl back turns him, and he’s upset by that one set, who will get better?
You know the answer.
The positive student, thought he starts out far behind, will excel in time, while the negative student, with all his talent, will come to hate the pain that practicing brings. Filter for the positive at every turn.
Dead night? You get to practice sharp shooting!
Long line? Lot’s of girls stuck in one place who haven’t been hit on too much yet.
Quick blow out? No wasted time!
Get rejected? Great job truing to escalate.
What if you’re a negative person by nature?
Recondition your brain.
With what I call the Temple of Win.
It’s easy, don’t worry about writing field reports or anything like that. But every time you open, after the set, write down at least one thing that was positive about it. Review these things every day and soon you’ll start filtering for all the things you do right instead of criticizing yourself all the time and forgetting about the good stuff.
Remember, it’s the process that matters, not the result. The effort, not the outcome.
The destination does not exist, for even when you arrive, you’ll only have begun another journey.
Till next time guys,
If you don’t know what to say, just say something.
Love ya!
-The Braeden
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The Braeden helps clients identify limiting beliefs and action new strategies to actualize their potential. He teaches on workshops and bootcamps all across the country and is the lead instructor for the Platinum Residential live-in training program. For more information please check out PUATraining.com
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Getting Kissed Under the Mistletoe: 4 Tips to Increase Your Odds
4 Tips for Getting Kissed Under the Mistletoe
Ah, mistletoe. A fun part of Christmas that isn’t as celebrated as it used to be, mistletoe puts the fun back into kissing (as if it was ever gone…). That said, for most people, mistletoe is more for those in a relationship rather than a way to get a sneaky first kiss out of some woman you’ve got a crush on—unless, of course, you’ve got a little bit of game and some balls to boot. If you want to leverage this great tradition to get a smooch out of a woman you’ve got your eye on this Christmas season, here are some things to keep in mind.
1. Make Sure She’s Game
First off, you don’t want the jolly mistletoe tradition to be a reason to plant your lips on some woman that has no interest in kissing you whatsoever—that is bound to have the opposite of the desired effect. So unless you want to get slapped in front of the entire party, make sure there are some mutual feelings there. It helps if you’ve already made some headway with this girl and have some real flirting and touching going on beforehand, so put in the work ahead of time.
2. Make it Convenient
You want the kiss to be one of convenience—you don’t want to spend the whole night trying to steer her over to the side of the room where you hung your little “trap.” So hang it around several different places in the house where the party is going on. This also helps because other people, who are probably couples already, will take advantage of it too and start the kissing off beforehand, making it more fun for everyone.
3. Make it Unavoidable
While you’re at it, don’t leave things to chance. Besides the mistletoe hanging around your house, stick a small branch into your pocket. This makes it easy to whip it out when the moment is right. If a kiss is already happening naturally, whipping it out can ease the tension a little bit and get a good laugh out of her.
4. Don’t Be a Psycho
By this, I mean don’t take it too seriously, try to force it, or get upset if it doesn’t work out. The fun thing about kissing under the mistletoe is that it’s meant to be fun—so keep it that way. You can make it more romantic if you want, but if that’s the angle you want to take, then try it when you are alone rather than in front of others at the party. If everyone is around and anyone at all is watching, it’s best to be light-hearted as possible because she’ll be a bit embarrassed—and settle for a peck as success rather than expecting a full-blown makeout session in front of the party like you might see in a movie.
Don’t base your relationships on movies, by the way.
So those are some basic tips for a little smoochery under the mistletoe. There’s no reason not to get in the holiday spirit with your dating, so leverage this age old tradition and plant your lips on some lips this Christmas season.
If you have any holiday kiss or mistletoe stories be sure to let us know in the comment section.
Have a Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays! — AFC Adam Lyons
